Sometimes you are just really feeling off your game for what ever reason, I mean things happen right? When you tell people, they are like, “oh, just stay positive.” It can get really tiring trying to stay positive ALL. THE. TIME. Sweeping every bad thing under the rug and looking for the silver lining, keeping that smile on when you are seriously bothered underneath. It’s just exhausting.
Today I’m going to let you in on a little SECRET.
I DON’T try to stay positive ALL-THE-TIME and I’m telling you that you don’t have to either.
I KNOW. Shocking right?
But here’s the thing. When you are busy trying to be positive, literally all the time, you end up burying what you really feel.
You are a human being, you have more emotions than ‘happy’ and you need to feel all of them.
Sometimes I get mad, angry, sad, doubtful, defeated. Yes, I get all those feelings too! When it becomes too much to just ‘stay positive’ and I just feel like being mad, here’s what I do … I just say “F*CK IT!”
Yup, that’s what I do … I take a F*CK IT Day.
I just let myself feel whatever I need to for the rest of the day. Sometimes I lay in bed, sometimes I indulge in cheese fries with bacon, sometimes I even call with my cell phone provider and argue about my bill it all depends on what I’m feeling, and what I need to feel.
I let myself do this because I know I need to get it out of my system and let go of some of the pressure. I know that if I let myself have this time, I will wake up the next day feeling different. In fact, I even tell myself, “you will feel differently tomorrow” and I do.
It’s not about NOT feeling your emotions, but how you manage them that really matters. How long will you let yourself feel sorry for yourself? Maybe you don’t even need a day, maybe you just need a F*CK IT hour. Get pissed off all you need in that hour, let it out! You’re still in charge because you decide on the time, you are still managing your emotions. You give it a limit.
If you continue to cover up all your emotions with a fake smile, that’s like getting a stain on your couch cushion and just flipping it over. It’s still there and you are not dealing with it. And guess what happens. When you get a new stain you try to flip it again and WHOOPS! You’re old stuff just came to surface again! Now you got more stains to deal with. It’s time to clean those stains and get them out.
I always want you to focus on what you have an being grateful and learning from your experiences, but you don’t need to cover up stuff. When you just need to be sad or mad or tired or defeated just take the F*CK IT hour, F*CK IT day or whatever you need and let it out! Just give it a time limit (important). When you take this time to deal, it will be easier to get back on track. Nothing will be burning inside you like a pressure cooker. You will be able to release.
You have my permission to say F*CK IT when you need to. Just be sure you use this technique sparingly and be sure to return to your groove when you are done and over it.
If you know someone in desperate need of some F*CK IT time, please send them this post and give them permission 🙂